I am Vulnerable and Strong

I am not expected to be soft and express my needs to others. I am expected to hold in my anger and hide breakdowns. I am supposed to bury my past and never seek justice for myself, my children or my husband. I am expected to be everyone’s comic relief and personal counselor. I am the mother for the motherless and the father to the fatherless. I make other people feel good about themselves, while they leave me empty and depleted. I should not expect a Prince to come and save me, I am expected to saddle up my horse […]

Valentine’s Day is Coming 💝

Now is the time for laughter, love and hope… and then there is reality. Not that feeling these things aren’t real, but life more than hugs and kisses. Here are some tips for identifying healthy and unhealthy relationships. After you read the blog, check out our Valentines Day Collection/Free Shipping, there is something for everyone. Check it out and let us know what you think. #yearofyushima Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships Healthy relationships… 1. Compliment Partners in healthy relationships share compliments of each other freely and often. Whether complimenting appearance, an achievement at work, or a partner’s talents – genuine compliments help […]

Blog: January 1, 2021

The Power of No! I have learned how to accept the word “No!” There are books written about how to never accept no. People have created movements to never accept the word no, but what happens to a generation of people who can’t accept the word no even if it’s in their best interest? I saw it for myself this past year when people were simply asked to wear a mask, and they said, “No!” In other news there were people that wanted to recognize that Black lives mattered, and they were told, “No!” and the hatred was doubled down […]

December 2020: The Best Gift Ever!

I turned forty something on December 28th. It’s no secret, and I’m not ashamed of my age, because I have earned every single gray hair on my head and I have learned so much from this gift called living. This year I received more than I have ever gotten in my whole life for my birthday. I believe I received so many blessings because I opened myself up to receive. I talked about this more in my blog, Conquering Imposter Syndrome. It is a blessing to be loved, and a blessing for others to show me that they love me […]

November 2020: Find Your People!

It took me 42 years to realize that I need people. That’s a hard pill to swallow, not because of my pride, but because of past pain. Years of betrayal, bad decisions and failed relationships let a bitter taste in my mouth and I have learned how to isolate. I isolate well.  I still need time to unplug and recharge. It’s who I am, it’s how I heal and grow. However, by golly, I think I found my people! My people consist of a group of women who want to see me win! That’s it. I want to see them […]

October 2020: Imposter Syndrome

The first thing I did was change the way I talked to myself. I learned how to advocate for myself, the way that I advocate for others. I began counseling myself the way I counsel others. I began complimenting myself the way that I compliment others.I started speaking life into myself, my looks, my thoughts, my abilities are all worthy of love, respect and blessings. Yes, my looks, I had low self esteem and I was not happy with how I looked. The first example I can remember is growing my natural hair and wanting to love it. It was […]

Unpopular Opinion: 2020 has not been that bad to me.

I can only speak for myself when I say that 2020 has not been bad for me, personally. That’s not to say that I haven’t been affected deeply and even traumatized by the way black and brown people have been treated. This pisses me off on a whole nother level but that’s a different post. I can’t claim that as a failure for me personally because while I have always been affected by the deaths of our men, it has always been this way, it’s just been magnified this year. I have always been aware of the evil hiding behind […]

How do mothers cope when their child wants to kill them?

For those of you who read my book, Picking Up the Pieces to 100 Broken Promises, you know that my relationship with my oldest son, Mikey, has been less than stellar to say the least. Due to coronavirus, I couldn’t visit him on his birthday, but I can hardly believe that he’s 15 years old now. And as of today, he is not home, not because I don’t want him here, that’s for sure. Never did I imagine that we would not be together. This birthday without him was a hard one. I am used to him helping me pick […]

Picking Up the Pieces

The last few months have been interesting, to say the least. After publishing, “Picking Up the Pieces to 100 Broken Promises,” I expected my life to change, but I really didn’t know what to expect. I have had conversations with characters in my book and it has been therapeutic for them as well as for myself. I have had the opportunity to help others come to terms with experiences that affected them and their families. I think I’m going to interview some of the people that I wrote about, it may be awkward, but for you guys, I’m willing to […]

A Message to My Readers

  THANK YOU I am humbled and grateful that you have purchased and are reading my book. This book isn’t just about me, it’s about everyone who has faced trauma and who is seeking to come through on the other side, healed and whole. To me, it is more than a book. It’s a glimpse inside of my innermost being. It’s my family and friends, past and present, and you have decided to become a part of it. Thank you. You can show your continued support by leaving a review and telling your friends and loved ones where Picking Up […]